Homework post for 2Ap: emotional intelligence+
Respond in writing to the following task. Word limit: min 150 words. Post your work as comment. Deadline: 24 February 2021.
Homework post for C9
So here we go. Your job is to pick a topic (or two) and write your opinion and arguments (+ examples) not more than 120-160 words. Student's book ex. 6 p.7. Deadline: March 4th. Enjoy it!
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[1] I think that my strongest aspects of emotional intelligence are the
social awareness and empathy.
[2] Emotional intelligence can help you with problems in almost
every sphere of life.
So for me, its very essential to improve my EQ.
The ways in which you can improve your emotional intelligence are:
1.Talking to other people;
It may sound simple but it can
really bring your social abilities to a new level.
Expressing emotions through healthy conversation,
will be the best solution for solving group problems
as well as for meeting new people.
2.Analizing your own mind and emotions;
Knowing us a little more will help us understand why certain
situations evoke specific feelings in us.
For many people it's also difficult to empathize with others,
when your not able to name and understand your own emotions.
3.Developing social knowledge;
It will be needed to know how to help people more and how to
help yourself too.
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[1] You can get some information for what's happening, from
your close friend. He is for sure knowing what's in his own mind
and probably he will tell you. You need to make sure if he and his
friends are really trying to avoid you. (and if they do, why?)
[2] For me, the best solution for this kinda situation would be
telling your siblings that if they need to talk or they need someone
for help, they have you. If you love them,
tell them you love them.
Let them see that you care about their feelings.
Piotr Soliński, nr 28
8.1.
I think the strongest aspect of emotional intelligence is being able to manage our own emotions. When we got emotions under our control, we can, for example, avoid hurting someone else or not let ourselves in awkward situations.
8.2.
In my opinion, people can improve their emotional intelligence through observations and learning about themselves. By observations, we can get to know more of correct behaviours in our environment and due to self-learning, we can know ourselves better, which helps improve emotional intelligence. I believe that with higher EQ life could be easier.
9.1.
The best way to deal with this situation is just a simple conversation. I would need to don't let myself have an emotional outburst and try to talk to my friend, explain to them how I feel and what I'm expecting from them.
9.2.
I would still try to talk to my brother or ask for help other people he may be close with. In many ways, I'd just try to get closer to him and make him trust me more.
Joanna Papudzińska nr 22
1.Firstly I think that my strength is recognizing my own emotion. I use my intuition to understand my feelings and also to cope with them. Secondly, I can say that I have quite good empathy. It is connected with my intuition, but also it comes from listening to people. Most people want to show and share their emotions, so the only thing that is needed is to pay attention to other people's behavior.
2.In my opinion, the best way that I can improve my EQ is through self-evaluation. It's extremely important to understand myself better, because without knowing about my own emotions - I can’t do anything. The next thing that I can do is practice my social skills. That can be done only by communicating with other people. After all, increasing my EQ level can help me understand other people and myself.
Ex.9
1.In this situation, the best you can do is to try to understand your close friend. Maybe they are not trying to hurt you or make you feel abandoned. Also, try to understand why you are hurt and confused. Managing your emotions will help you see things more clearly. However, if you have a possibility you should strike up a conversation with him. Your friend maybe doesn't know that his behavior can hurt you.
2.Try to empathize with your siblings. You can talk to them, ask about what's going on in their lives. Show them support and actively listen to what they have to say. Also important is to come across as a person who they can trust and tell their problems.
Anna Pędziwiatr nr.24
I think aspects of emotional intelligence at which i'm strongest is that I'm a very good listener and I'm able to feel and show empathy.
8.2
In my opinion to improved my emotional intelligence I should learn how to manage my emotions and how to show emotions. It will be great idea to try dealing with conflict. Benefits which we can have from high emotional intelligence is for example better contacts with people and easier making new friends.
9.1
The best thing I can do in this situation in my opinion is just talk with your friend and say him it hurts you. If he really cares about have a great contact with you he should try to do something with that.
9.2
If they don't want talk top you at the first time you can try again. Try to show them they have support in you and doesn't matter in what.
Weronika Olejnik nr.20
8.2 In my opinion I should improve managing my emotions. I’m a person who switches moods very often and I can’t always control them. Being more able to manage my emotions is my goal. It will help me with being more stable and self conscious person.
9.1 The best I can do in that situation is to talk to my friend. I’ll tell him that his behaviour hurts me. I’d probably ask my friend why is he acting like that and if it will be possible I’ll try to understand him. I really care about him and if he cares about me he will probably do something to make the situation better.
9.2 In that kind of situation I would try to talk with my sister anyways. I don’t want to scare her, so I have to be gentle while trying to make better contact with her. I would start with small talks and maybe after some time she’ll open up to me. I want my sister to know that she’s got a friend in me. Maybe a talk with close person will help her with dealing with her problems. Martyna Cyk
I think that my strongest aspects of emotional intelligence are ability to motivate myself and being a good listener.
8.2
I think that a lot can be learned from valuable books or from the statements of wise people.
Getting out of your comfort zone will also contribute to intellectual development. The benefits of intellectual development can be better relationships with people, greater recognition, and it will be easier to deal with some problems.
9.1
If they really avoided me, they would not have contacted me for a long time, and the person who left me without saying a word turned out to be false and worthless.I wouldn't worry about the situation because I wouldn't like to have such people around me.
9.2
I would try to talk honestly with him, if he was not in the mood I would try to support him so that he would know that he can count on me. I would also talk to his colleagues, maybe they would know what is the cause and I would have more ways to help him.
Antoni Cieślak nr.7
8.2. I can certainly improve my emotional intelligence by managing my emotions. During arguments or conflicts I try to avoid violent emotions, but in everyday situations I often find myself reacting to something in a way I wouldn't want to. It is always better to think first than to react too quickly. I think an important benefit of this would be to improve relationships with others. A lot of people can also change their opinions about me.
9.1. If I were this person I would like to talk about situation with my friend who is avoiding me now. A quiet conversation with just one person would be the best solution. It is easier to talk about emotions during the conversation when no one is watching. It is worth to encourage the other person to talk and to listen carefully to what he is saying.
9.2 I'd try to talk calmly first. If my sister doesn't leave the room, I think it means she feels safe there so I would go there and try to encourage conversation. I think a calm tone and words would have an effect. If she still won't talk and her behaviour continues to worry me, I would go to an adult.
Weronika Milde nr 18
8.2 I think that i should focus on working on my awareness of my own emotions. I can be too sensitive sometimes and i easily cry. I want change this but i'm not sure how. At least for now.
9.1 I think that sometimes i'm way to honest and because of that some people might avoid me. If that's the case i would confront him about it and try to find a solution.
9.2 This is hard to imagine for me because my sister and i are very close and she always tells me if something is wrong but when she doesn't feel good i often bake a cake for her and leave her alone.
Julia Banaś nr.2
[1]
There’s a lot of aspects of emotional intelligence, but only few of them concerns about me and, I think about majority of people my age.
The first aspect of emotional intelligence is being able to feel and show empathy. Generally people around me describe me as an empathetic person – I can understand their problems and usually help them. It’s usable in getting in touch with people, because most of them need consideration and somebody, who can be their anchor. As a result, I earned a really close friends or fellows.
Between empathy and being a good listener there’s a lot of similarities. Being a good listener can help with solving a lot of problems and as a result – making new friends. It’s also useful in understand other people without knowing them. By listening other people’s opinions or their fears, I can know their tendencies, strengths and weaknesses, which is useful in finding solutions of their problems.
[2]
I think one of solutions for improve my emotional intelligence is reading books, which discuss this subject. It would be helpful with recognizing emotions and showing them – I believe it could help in many spheres of my life. By doing this, I could know better my feelings, manage them and showing right emotions against situations. Also it would be usable in daily life – by reading books our vocabulary and stock of words extends, which have a huge impact on how we’re perceived by others.
Other way to improve my emotional intelligence is managing emotions. By doing this, I think it would help me become resistant to manipulate, which is damaging to people’s mind and their peace of the soul.
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[1]
I think the best way to approach this situation is conversation with a friend. As a friend, you should ask them, why they’re avoiding you – maybe it’s only your impression? You should try understand fact, that people should have other friends, because it helps improve and develop them.
Also you should try to manage your emotions and try to be more empathetic. The best you can do is trying to explain your feelings – I’m really sure, that he doesn’t know what are you feeling, because you didn’t tell him about it.
Also it could be something more serious – maybe your friend doesn’t want to be friends with you and new people can help him forget about yours friendship? It seems to be ridiculous, but sometimes it happens to people around us. Being genuine with yourself and primarily with your friend would help you solve this common problem and maybe brace yours friendship.
[2]
First of all, the best I could do in this situation is trying understand my sibling. All of us has worse days, so it’s understandable, but when it happens around few times a week (more than two, three), it could be something serious. I wouldn’t press on my sister and give her time to gather her thoughts, because pressure could give opposite effect of the one intended – she wouldn’t talk to me and it could get things worse.
Also I would try to be more patient – my sister normally need time to tell me what happened to her, so it would be the best what I could offer her. After all, I would try find a solution for her problem, maybe do something for her, which could be helpful.
Weronika Stawieraj, nr 29
8.2 In my opinion your emotional intelligence could be improved by listening to wise individuals, taking their advice into consideration and rethinking your past actions and what you’ve done wrong. Another way is reading books or articles that touch upon the subject of EQ.
9.1 I think that this conflict could be solved just with a conversation. I would advise not to be very critical and mean to them, but express your emotions and tell them what you’ve been feeling so that they can understand your perspective better. Ask them why they have been acting this way and try to consider that maybe the new friends or you are the issue - not exactly the person. Discuss how they feel about you and the people they have been hanging out with and try to solve this without your emotions taking control over you.
9.2 I would try to talk with my sibling and spend more time together before asking them about the problem. I wouldn’t want to scare them or upset them even more, because if they seem depressed that’s the last thing that I would want to do. Arguing with them or mocking their actions wouldn’t be helpful so I would just try to comfort them and assure them that they can always rely on me and can tell me anything. If they wouldn’t want to conversate about it, I wouldn’t pressure them, rather give them time to think about it and talk once they’re ready.
Zuzanna Chałubiec nr. 6
I constantly trying to improve my emotional intelligence and I think I have quite big experience in this aspect. For me the best way is to analyze behaviors, emotions, reacting to certain situations and trying to understand them. Of course you should to do it both with your problems and other’s. I use to say that finding a reason, a cause is the most important thing. If you know what is causing emotional state you are able to explain yourself or somebody a problem and make out solution easier.
You’re supposed to look from different perspectives about that case. Your first thought probably would be: My best friend left me, his/her group of friends is avoiding me. For sure I am a problem, I am fateful person. That way you can easily get into bad mood just because your emotions control you. Maybe think about it in that way: changes are normal, people sometimes leave and come into life and it’s completely normal; maybe her/him is happier now and that person is not avoiding you, but only spend the most of time with them; but maybe she/he don’t like you anymore and that person avoid you. Until you won’t talk to that friend you will never know because impression always will be just impression.
I would still trying to convince my sister to tell me the truth. I would bet her that I’m not going to tell anyone, I’m not going to judge her, I just want to help her etc. Of course I would analyze her behaviors, reacting to certain situations and I would try to explain that. If I’d be forced I would direct the conversation so she’d tell me the truth.
Marcelina Olejniczak nr19
1.I think I’m strongest at being able to reason and problem-solve and being able to remember information
2.I can improve my emotional intelligence further by trying to be a better listener and motivating myself to do some things. About listening, I sometimes just turn off when somebody is talking to me I mean not directly, face to face but like it is on online lessons and this is very often caused of thinking about other things. So I have to work on it to do one thing when it is need to be done and other thing when it is need to be done in other time, not to mix everything at once.This will help me to be more organised and more focused.
Second point is about motivating myself.I personally feel that if I hadn’t been so lazy or shy I would be a bit other person or I would be in other situation than I’m now.In hindsight I see many lost chances and things in my life.I should just buck up and work on myself to improve this skill.
Ex.9
1.I think that the first step in this situation should be just an honest talk with this friend.
You should talk with him/her and try to get information why it is like it is and together try to find a solution.You should keep your emotions on leash, maybe it’s just nothing, just a temporary situation and by this simple solution which is talk you should get an effect that you want
2.You should try to talk to him/her gently, do some research why this person feel depressed, show support and sensivity.This steps should make depressed person to be more open to you, you go down as more faithful and trustworthy for this person.
Joachim Sarnik nr 27