Homework post for 2Dp: emotional intelligence+
Respond in writing to the following tasks. Word limit: min 150 words. Post your work as comment. Deadline: 24 February 2021.
Homework post for C9
So here we go. Your job is to pick a topic (or two) and write your opinion and arguments (+ examples) not more than 120-160 words. Student's book ex. 6 p.7. Deadline: March 4th. Enjoy it!
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In my opinion, the most developed emotion in my character is that I can control my temper very well. I don't usually lose my patience and I can supervise my anger. I suppose that I also have a well developed skill of recognising other peoples emotions. I would definetly like to be more helpful to people, I have the willingness to help them but sometimes I just don't know how and I even make the situation worse. The main benefit would be that my friends were happier after my help and our relations could be on a higher level.
Zad 9
The first thing I would do in this kind of situation is asking the person that makes me hurt and confused if the situation is really the way I feel it is. In this way I could check if my feelings were telling me the truth. Than if it was the way I felt, I would propably be kind of sad but not for long. Maybe if the situation was very bad I would consult it with my parents or other friends just to make sure I don't fall into depression. In this way I would feel more comfortable and sure that I am not alone.
If my brother was depressed, I would try to make him happier at all cost. First of all it is worth talking to him but in a calm way. I would try to investigate why does he feel this way and propably make things he likes, playing basketball for example. I would make sure that he feels loved by me and our parents and that he is not alone and always has our help.
Mateusz Marceniuk
Emotional intelligence is made up of many factors.One of them is coping with stress.personally coping with stress is not my forte, because sometimes some things can overwhelm me, but it all depends on the situation.Dealing with stress is my weakest side of the whole eq.I does not change the fact that.I can control my behavior, my mood very well , but sometimes it is impossible, e.g. in contacts with parents.It happens that during the conversation with my parents through views, e.g. my dad I lose the brakes and sometimes say something that is on my heart and it is quite a critical opinion towards e.g. dad.I believe that developing such skills, e.g. coping with stress, is difficult because in my opinion such exercises are useless and more practice is needed.The ability to deal with stress is very useful, for example, at work.
9.
In the first moment, I would try to define what the situation looks like by talking to the person and try to figure out what the situation is on their part.After the conversation, there are two options, if you can see that the situation looks as it was, you can ask someone for suggestions on what to do in such a situation. If, on the other hand, a given situation occurred by chance and this person did not want the situation to look like this, then you can devise a joint plan with him to change it.Personally, it seems to me that if I did not go through such a situation, it would be difficult for me to help my brother with such siblings. I would definitely go to my parents and tell them about the situation.
Maciek Kubiak
I think I’m not good at cooperating head and heart. I go on an impulse of emotions and only later I start to think about the whole situation and what should I do. And I think this is an aspect I should work on. To improve my emotional intelligence I would be more empathetic, better understand what people feel and can put myself in their situation. The biggest benefit of this would be that I could be more helpful to them and know what I should do to solve their problem.
I think the most important thing in this situation is a heart-to-heart conversation. Being honest is a basis in friendship. If something is going on we should talk about how to solve it. We shouldn’t distance ourselves from each other without any reason. In friendship it is important to care about the feelings of another person but it doesn’t mean that our feelings aren’t important so we should share them.
If my brother or sister seems depressed I would do something with them that they like, spend time with them to make them forget about their problems. Then I would try to get to know what happend and find a way to solve this problem. If I couldn’t help I would look for help from our parents or somebody who could help them.
Marysia Paterek
1. I think I am strongest at managing my emotions, cause when I am devastated and everything is going wrong I can put myself together and leave those negative emotions behind me. Furthermore, those negative emotions I had, can actually be used for learning and future experiences – no matter how painful they are. I try to reflect on the experience and look it ways as it is a life lesson. Every failure makes us stronger.
2. I think the best way to improve my emotional intelligence is to observe how I react to people and vice versa. I need to check if I stereotype, judge etc. If my decision impact others, I need to put myself in their place. It is important to understand each other’s position, because of it, we can communicate better. We need to be less selfish and stubborn in order to live in harmony.
9
1. The most important thing is talking about feelings, because the other person probably doesn’t know how I feel. If I talk to her, I will find out if it is the impression, or she really avoids me. If she does, she is not worth me, and she was never a real friend, or maybe she didn’t know that she made me feel hurt and quite confused.
2. The best way to resolve this problem is a conversation. I should talk with him honestly, because he might have a serious problem. It can be even a depression, which is a common issue among teenagers. Especially if he seems to be miserable and out of energy. Secondly, I will try to make him happy and do some funny stuff together, something what he really like.
Oliwia Jóźwiak
1.
In my opinion in emotional intelligence I’m the strongest at being able to feel and show empathy. Because it’s the thing I’m born with. Empathy is the thing whitch companion me for my whole life and I think it’s very important to feel empathy and show other people that we understand their problem and we just want to help them. It’s very helpful to stay a human in this brutal world. This feeling remember us to show grace and love to people whose need this the most.
2.
I suppose I can improve my emotional intelligence by being open for my emotions or start do yoga, meditations because I’m a person who cant deal with my own feelings and I think this could help me. Then for sure I would be more confident and peaceful person.
9
1.
I think it’s normal to feel hurt but we must to remember our worth. It’s not our fault and we don’t have to additionally hurt our-self by blaming and think what are we doing wrong. We must to remember that and don’t forger about manage our emotions by doing little nice think like walk or spend time with other friends. This could work and improve our mood and we could stay positive.
2.
If we really want to help them first we must to motivate our-self to be patient and then try motivate them to do simply nice things then try start a conversation about their problem. We must to be a good listeners and remember to feel and show empathy even if we think it’s caused by a stupid reason to help them aware their emotions by understand their position.
Gabriela Gudaś
I came across an opinion that I am an empathetic person it is crucial for me to be helpful to friends and help them in difficult times, incarnate in their current situation because I know that good always pays off and will come back to us when we need it. It sounds a bit like Buddhist karma, but I just believe that you should always put yourself in the shoes of another person and try to help because maybe someday you will be in a similar situation and also need someone's aid.
From my point of view, I consider myself a person who can keep emotions in check. I think that my strength is being able to manage my feelings. It’s hard to upset me and make me lose my temper. I can easily manage exasperation or grief. But the one emotion I find it hard to deal with is stress. I am trying to learn how to handle and relieve that feeling and I guess I am getting better and better at it. Stress a condition that in excessive amounts causes damage to health, so it is extremely important to be able to control it. Thus, the benefit would probably be various health aspects, but also simply a calmer mind and more rational thinking in stressful situations.
9
1. It would surely be a very unpleasant situation for me. I would probably try to have a sincere conversation with my friend, ask what happened and tell him how I feel about it. That kind of conversations is usually embarrassing but very important to understand each other's feelings. If I still felt bad about it, I would talk to someone close to me and sought the advice of this person.
2. If my brother was acting like that, I would try to talk about what was bothering him and try to spend more time together. Supposing that didn't help, I would tell my parents about it and perhaps offered an appointment with a psychologist to deal with this problem.
Marta Teodorczyk
I am aware of mine emotions and show empathy. I always want to show people that I care about them. I want to understand their emotions. I like to ask about their life. Then I learn a lot about themselves. I am curious about everything that surrounds me. People are not a secret for me. I know a lot about myself. I can contain my emotions because I understand them. Usually, I know why I am angry or sad. I know how to deal with it. I am confident because I know my values.
8.2.
I can improve my emotional intelligence in many ways. I can analyze my emotions. I can learn innovative words. If I know unfamiliar words, it is easier to name my emotions. I can meet with new people and talk with them. If they have a weird live then I can learn something from them. I want to see the world from other perspectives, not only for my own. I would be able to problem-solve.
9.1
I want to talk with my close friend. Then I know what she is thinking about it. I would like to know what they avoid me. This is just a misunderstanding. If she is my friend, she did not want to hurt me. I can control my emotions. If she wants to spend time with a different group of friends, she can do that. I just want to spend time with her sometimes. I think that conversation with her should answer to a problem.
9.2.
Conversation is most important in solving problems. I wish he knew that he can count on me. I would help him. I would ask if he would like to spend time with me. I would have to show that I care about my brother and in whatever situation I will support him. My brother just must know that I am his sister and I love him and want to support him.
Monika Kochelska
If my close friend started hanging out with other people and avoiding me, I would honestly talk with my friend about how I feel about it. As his/her friend I deserve an explanation, avoiding someone with no reason is so immatural, but if my friend had a good reason I would try to understand and fix our friendship. But if my friend didn't have any good reasons, I would try to deal with pain after a lost friend by giving myself time and focusing on my passions and other close people.
If my brother seemed depressed and didn't want to talk to me, I think I would leave him a letter about how worried I am. I would write there that I'm his sister, I love him and I do everything I could to help him. Sometimes people think they don't have any support, but if they asked, they would get it.
Oliwka Szczecińska
Emotional intelligence consists of five aspects: self-regulation, motivation, empathy, skills in interpersonal relations and self-consciousness.
I think the aspect that I'm the strongest at is empathy. When I talk with someone I can understand their emotions or problems. I can solve their problems and I can help them with it.
If I could further improve my emotional intelligence I could try from controlling my emotions. It could help me with everyday life for example stressing situation.
9
If my close friend would start hanging out with other people and avoiding me then I would be really sad. I think I'd even cry depends on how close this friend is. I would try to talk with this friend about what's happening and why. If it wouldn't change anything then I'd try to make better friendships with my other friends.
If my sister wouldn't come out of her room and want to talk then I'd come to her and try to talk. I'd listen to her and if she'd have problems I'd try to help her solve it.
Natalia Kacperczyk
I think that I am strongest at empathy. I can easily recognize human emotions. Also, I can understand what other people feel, see things from their point of view and imagine myself in their place.
8.2
In my opinion, I can improve my emotional intelligence by learning how to better control my emotions. Sometimes when I am angry or sad, I just can’t keep calm and I tell things that I regret later. So, if I’ll learn how to control my emotions it will help me in keeping good relations with other people and avoiding unnecessary arguments.
9.1
The first thing I would do in this situation is an honest conversation with the friend. I would talk with her about how I feel about this and ask if I'm right that she’s avoiding me. Maybe she really doesn’t avoid me and she just doesn’t know that I’m hurt and confused. Then after the conversation, we can think about how to solve this problem together.
9.2
If my sister would seem depressed, I would talk with her about it. I would ask her why is she acting like this and if something is bothering her. Also, I would try to spend more time with her to show her that I am always there for her and that I will always support her no matter what.
Oliwia Kubiak
8.2 Sometimes I can’t manage my emotions and I think it’s because of the fact that I am the type of person who don’t want to talk about their problems and I hide them because I am scared of my feelings. I think that I should talk more with people that I can trust because hiding problems won’t solve them. By talking about what I feel I think that I would become more aware of my decisions, more confident and my relationships with people would have improved.
9.1 I would try to talk to my friend about that situation and try to find out did I do something wrong that it could hurt them. If I did, I would apologize for that because I did it unconsciously. If I didn’t, I would try to know why my friend avoid me and is he/she okay. I think that conversation is the best way to solve that type of problems.
9.2 If my brother didn’t want to talk, I would give him time to just cool down. Then I would try to talk. I would start with that I see that he looks sad and he is important for me and I want to help him. I would tell him that he can trust me. I think that it could work and after he said what’s going on, I would give him my advice and try to do something that he like to cheer him up.
Gabriela Osmulska
In my opinion, my stongest emotion in my character is that I'm the man of my word always do this. So when somebody asks me for a request I'll do every think in my power to help this person. I'll still doing my best when somebody need me. And I would like to start talking what I can do better with emotion. The benefits of improving emotional intelligence is trust in friends and family and they need help I always give them hand of help.
9
First of all I will talk to person who hurt me bucause I would like to know, why the situation turned out like this. Next I will start looking for help from my friends and family because they will help me understand what I really feel and what I really want in life.
If my sister was depressed, I would all my best to make a smile on her face. I would like to know what caused his emotional state and then I could try to help her od give her advice what her can do. She loves italian food I could take her for pasta or lasagne after that I'd watch her favorite series with her and eat popcorn and ice cream for this.
I'm sure day like this make her smile and feel better for long time.
Michał Stasiak
I think my strongest aspects of emotional intelligence are empathy and the natural ability to understand feelings and emotions of other people. These qualities make me an open minded, helpful and tolerant person, so my friends often turn to me when they have any problems they can’t cope with. I am a patient person, so I guess I’m also a good listener. It’s not hard for me to understand what somebody wants to tell me. I think I could further improve my emotional intelligence for example by talking with other people or just listening to them. That’s why my big desire is to become a psychiatrist by profession.
9.
1. First of all I would discuss the situation with my friend. I would show my point of view and reveal my feelings. I believe, honesty is important in friendship, so I wouldn’t hold the grudge against him or her.
2. I would try to get to know, what’s bothering them. If something was going wrong, I would offer them my advice and help. I would do my best to cheer them up.
Julia Makówka
I think that the main aspect of emotional intelligence that I should focus on improving is empathy . Sometimes I find it hard to sympathize with people that complain about their current life situation and put the blame on external factors,even though they hold full responsibility for their fate, I just see it as avoiding responsibility for their own actions and trying put themselves in a comfort zone.However, I understand that external factors certainly play a role in one's life,but when it comes to the things that they have influence upon I think that they have no excuse.If I improved my empathetic skills I think that it would be easier to make friends with other people.
9.1
If this situation happened to me, I would definitely try to speak with my friend,tell him what I think about it and try to get an explanation from him or at least to understand his motives. If he confirms, that he no longer has any interest in maintaining our friendship,I would let him go,although it would be hard for me to lose a close friend.
9.2
If I saw that my brother is depressed, I would try to talk gently about his problems and to find a solution to his problems, or at least to make him less worried about them. I would then make him participate in activities that bring him happiness and peace of mind,like a bike ride together or another fun activity.When it wouldn’t have helped I would tell my parents about it and probably make an appointment with a psychologist for him.
Szymon Szewczyk
I guess my the strongest aspect of emotional intelligence is the ability of motivate yourself. I really like to set myself a new challenges which I try to perform hard work and involvement. Recently, I decided that I got a great result at the upcoming championship in June, so I practice my dance very hard every day to achieve my goal. I started going to the gym to improve my condition and look better on the dance floor too. I really like a physical effort and I feel so fulfilled and happy after a good workout. I think it is a really good feature in these times, because a lot of young people have a big problem with motivation to do anything.
ZADANIE 9
1.First, You shouldn’t end up your friendship right away. We never know what the other side feels. The rejected person should offer a meeting where everyone can express what they feel. This conversation must take place face to face, because it is impossible to express all feeling through social media. If the person who has delayed us does don’t want to keep in touch with us no more, we should respect it and come to the conclusion that this person just doesn’t deserve for us.
2.Young people are becoming more and more introverted and not open to new things or adventures. They wouldn’t like to meet face to face, because they prefer a online contact which is more convenient for them, so they choose it. This maybe one of the reasons a teenagers are depressed, because in internet there is so much hate and false news. Young people, despite the appearances of adults, really have a lot of worries and problems. Therefore, first of all, siblings should be support each other. You should calmly talk to your brother or sister and ask them to break out and explanation. This can be an amazing relief for them.
Antoni Krajewski
Zad 8
1. In my opinion my strongest aspects of emotional intelligence are manage feelings and be aware my emotions. When I furious or devastated, I may focus on school and meet my friends, because I develop this skills. According me there are my strongest aspects because I really often think about my emotions and how I should behave. If you can't do this, you are emotionally unstable and feelings limit you. Sometimes emotions manage your work and action, so people can think that you crazy or strange.
2. I think life is the best teacher, so I may improve my emotional intelligence when I will help people, solve problems and be in a stressful situation. I learn every day new things and note me and other peoples' emotions. Of course improve emotional intelligence have a lot of benefits. For example awareness emotions and manage feelings.
Zad 9
1. According me the best solution in this situation is talking with friends about the problem. Maybe, it is stupid a misunderstanding. If they don't want talk with me or ignore me, I think that is time to make new friends. When I would ask they to their attention, I will start toxic friendship. In this situation the most important that I must manage my emotions. If I would be furious or livid, I will break everything and I can't solve the problem.
2. I would try to find the reason his problem. I might become a better listener and focus on his every word. Sometimes people need a time, so maybe he comes to me and tell me everything. I must empathise with him and try to understand his issue. I should get to know about his thoughts, because for me, reason will be strange, but for him it is really major.
Igor Obłąk